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What’s In A Name?

Introducing, My Husband Let’s talk about a weird (and personal) topic. I’ve been trying to figure out how to draft this post, and I even contemplated not posting about the given topic…. which would have been slightly comical on my end, watching readers trying to figure out what (or rather, WHO) I’m talking about. I’ll just go ahead and put this out into the universe to clear any confusion- Kalyn (pronounced kay-lynn), my husband, is no longer Kalyn. You’re probably thinking “uhhh, what?”… that’s definitely been the common response. He legally changed his name. Long story short- starting now, when I refer to my husband on the blog, I’ll be calling him by his new name, Emmett. No, I didn’t get another husband, and even though it’s still incredibly weird- I totally support him in this decision. That brings me to the next question, what’s in a name? 

Everyone asks him why. Why in the world would you go to the extreme of changing your name?! I’ll recite his answer to every single person… “because if you dislike something you are capable of changing, why not change it?” Though it really needs no explanation, the past few decades he’s been called “Mrs. Gibson” on the phone, has answered spelling questions more times than I can count, and has spent a ton of precious time explaining his unique name. Regardless of his reasoning, I’m actually impressed with his rather ballsy move to do something about a part of his identity that bothered him.

Yes, it will be extremely difficult for me to actually call him by his new name. After all, we’ve been dating our entire dating lives… since the young age of 15. Nonetheless, I’m going to give it my best shot because that’s what he prefers! I’m also proud of him for choosing a name that is special to him and represents a part of his family. Obviously, I loved his name before, and am all about unique gender neutral names, but what I love most is the moral of this story- you have the control to make yourself happy!

So, without further ado, I’m publicly introducing my husband, as Emmett. I wanted to make sure you guys were in the know and weren’t totally shocked when I type “Emmett and I will be renovating…” and you’re thinking, “new home, new husband?!!”. If you’re interested in his voice and personality, you can read his post on landscaping right here!

Have any of you changed your name or know people who have done the same? I was surprised to learn it’s more common than I expected.

image: photography by greenbird

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    Emily
    August 9, 2016 at 1:43 pm

    Life is far too short to feel “stuck” with something that no longer serves you. I love that he’s making such a drastic change for his own happiness. I’m sure it will be weird at first, but it’ll grow on you!

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      Sarah
      August 9, 2016 at 1:49 pm

      You said this best!! I love your insight and this comment. xo

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    Lea
    August 9, 2016 at 3:08 pm

    I still think you should have gone with introducing him as your new brother husband as you guys settle into life in salt lake

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      Lea
      August 9, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      BTW, that picture is precious!

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        Sarah
        August 9, 2016 at 5:06 pm

        Ha! Thanks pretty lady! xo

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    Kate Benson
    August 9, 2016 at 3:38 pm

    I love that you’re supporting him in this! is it a legal nightmare to change all the credit cards, SS#’s, and other paperwork of adult life? I’ve wanted to change my name for years (and someone told me the other day how I didn’t “look” my name…) but my husband of 35 years was worried about the legal ramifications (and forgetting my new name!!)
    ps. Will sign with my want-to-be name :)

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      Sarah
      August 9, 2016 at 5:09 pm

      Thanks, Kate!! It has definitely been a process for him… in Ohio he had to attend a hearing, publish the legal change in a newspaper (by law), and of course update his SS card, ID, credit cards, etc. It’s super similar to changing your name with a marriage license. He said it’s not that difficult, just time consuming. Hope this helps with your decision! :) xoxo

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    Lauren Hess
    August 9, 2016 at 4:39 pm

    I say way to go! I also love the moral of “you are in control of your own happiness.”

    Hopefully it’s a smooth transition!

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      Sarah
      August 9, 2016 at 5:10 pm

      That’s what I said… even though I’ll continually mess it up for the next year or so. ha! That’s been a new moral I’ve been trying to adapt this year, and he is definitely leading by good example :) Thanks, Lauren! xo

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    Leah Prevost
    August 9, 2016 at 7:09 pm

    I think that’s awesome. Good for him! Have you done a post about moving and the new house yet? I checked back to see if I missed it but don’t think I have lol.

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      Sarah
      August 9, 2016 at 7:21 pm

      Hi Leah!! It’s on the schedule for next Thursday (the moving post), and the new house tour will be on August 22. I’m also thinking of doing a FB live Q&A. Meanwhile, I’m stuck over boxing things up and keeping busy ;) xooxo

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    Ardith
    August 10, 2016 at 11:08 am

    Well, congratulations, Emmett! Cheers, Ardith

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      Sarah
      August 10, 2016 at 6:00 pm

      He says thanks, Ardith!! :)

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    Sarah
    August 10, 2016 at 12:12 pm

    Wow, what a huge change. Your name is such big a part of your identity and I didnt think about until I changed my name after being married… good for him! I think its a brave decision and not a very common one. I love that you are so supportive. I’m super curious as to what led his parents to his birth name… but he totally looks like an Emmett!

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      Sarah
      August 10, 2016 at 6:04 pm

      Thank you! Same for me… it was weird for me taking his last name when we were married. He did talk to his parents about his decision to change his name… obviously he wasn’t trying to offend anyone, but it was clearly something he wanted to address. According to his father, he passed one of these trailers on the road and thought the spelling / name was cool. Ha! xo

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    Kat Schleich
    August 18, 2016 at 2:16 pm

    That is awesome! And what a great name he chose!!

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      Sarah
      August 18, 2016 at 2:25 pm

      I like it too! It’s just going to take me awhile to get used to it. Old habits die hard. Ha! xo

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    Hally
    August 22, 2016 at 7:37 pm

    Go him! That’s a great name choice imo!

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